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I sometimes lose face over sexual issues.

I go through times of not feeling adequate and lacking self esteem, other times the feeling of cheapness envelops me after spending a night with a stranger who I feel no respect for and had expectations of as being a decent human being.

I see sexual dignity as a purely personal thing.

We all have different limits and willingness to express ourselves and the acts we are open to performing.

Sister, daughters ,repent to Allah what you doing is big sin he is not your husband ,woman only make relation with husband and man only make relation with his wife this was the prophets teaching otherwise propinquity will be lost and indecency will scattered so what is the marriage for if you sleep with him eat with him may be kids from him what else left dignity and modesty is the women buty not how she look , Allah is forgiver for who ask the forgiveness and may Allah give you a good husband beautiful kids
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(31) And go not nigh to fornication; surely it is an indecency and an evil way. (32) And do not kill any one whom Allah has forbidden, except for a just cause, and whoever is slain unjustly, We have indeed given to his heir authority, so let him not exceed the just limits in slaying; surely he is aided. (33) And draw not near to the property of the orphan except in a goodly way till he attains his maturity and fulfill the promise; surely (every) promise shall be questioned about. (34) And give full measure when you measure out, and weigh with a true balance; this is fair and better in the end. (35) And follow not that of which you have not the knowledge; surely the hearing and the sight and the heart, all of these, shall be questioned about that. (36) And do not go about in the land exultingly, for you cannot cut through the earth nor reach the mountains in height. (37) All this-- the evil of it-- is hateful in the sight of your Lord. (38)
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Successful indeed are the believers, (1) Who are humble in their prayers, (2) And who keep aloof from what is vain, (3) And who are givers of poor-rate, (4) And who guard their private parts, (5) Except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess, for they surely are not blameable, (6) But whoever seeks to go beyond that, these are they that exceed the limits; (7) And those who are keepers of their trusts and their covenant, (8) And those who keep a guard on their prayers; (9) These are they who are the heirs, (10) Who shall inherit the Paradise; they shall abide therein.
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I'm an older person and non religious but have my morals.Having sex is not like drinking water, eating, breathing. I realize many TV programmes from a certain, supposedly "Christian" country have cheapened values of the younger generation in many other countries apart their own.

when you act like animal it touch your dignity, doesn't it?

Do you have respect for girls who sleep around with any guy just because he is hot and they dont even know him?

Hey, I wouldn't let someone touch my dignity for less than $500

:-)

try 2 think about it in different angle.just say that ur wife (if ur married)fulfilled her needs with other man before she married u.and in her heart the other man was much better than u in bed.how would u feel.

I used to be Christian, so I'll answer by reference to the books I was brought up with, which are likely to reflect many principles in other Holy Books.

The books of the Bible were written by men in a patriarchal society, and women were subjugated. Controlling how they dressed and the concept of pre-marital virginity, under pain of death in Deuteronomy, was part of that. And the Adam and Eve story was a myth that tried to explain how death, toil and other woes came into the world; and like the Greek Pandora myth, a woman is blamed (and by extension, in a patriarchal society, all women).

It even implies that women shouldn’t wear trousers: “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” (Deuteronomy 22:5)

That subjugation even appears in the New Testament. Look at what Paul says in 1 Timothy 2:9-15,

"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety."

This basically translates as, "Women, for goodness sake cover yourselves up. It's your fault we got pushed out of Eden, so shut up and get on with childbearing!"

He even has the cheek to insist that women keep their heads covered and claim that men were the image of god but women weren't: "For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (1 Corinthians 11:7-9).

He'd turn in his grave if he knew about the feminist movement. And luckily women and men are now considered of equal status. But some of the old attitude still persists in some religious people, including some women.

It is not just in religion you will find people who think it is shameful. Some people, regardless of faith or lack there of, feel that sex before marriage is wrong and immoral, just as you feel it is a basic human need. Like many things where the lines are so widely divided, you will never be able to meet in the middle. Live and let live, each with their own opinion.

try 2 think about it in different angle.just say that ur wife (if ur married)fulfilled her needs with other man before she married u.and in her heart the other man was much better than u in bed.how would u feel.