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What do I do when my marital problems start to interfere with my ability to...

...be productive at work? My wife is emotionally unstable. Every few months she rails on me for not being good enough for her. She makes more money than me. She uses this as leverage. She regularly distracts me or takes shots at my self esteem. I'm very depressed right now.

And it's affecting my ability to be productive at work. I had to tell my boss that I didn't get my work done because of personal issues. My boss was very understanding. A mentor in my office talked to me and suggested marriage counseling. I'm going to do it.

But I look ahead on my career and wonder how I can ever be successful long term. Her antics distracted me in grad school, distracted me when I was looking for a job, and have distracted me in the year since I started my professional life. I don't see how I can stay married and be successful. But my marriage is the most important thing in my world. I feel so trapped.

I think I need a kind word more than I need real advice. But does anyone have any suggestions?