I'm in graduate school earning my masters while working full time, which he likes and seems proud of.. my 29 year old bf, on the other hand, seems to lack ambition. We've only been seeing each other for 2 months, too soon for me to bring this up, but here's what I know about him--
He comes from a good family. His parents just celebrated their 30 year wedding anniversary. They live in an upper-middle class suburb of New York. His older brother, who he looks up to, makes 6 figures at a very good company in Manhattan. His sister-in-law (big bro's wife,) is a brain surgeon.
He went to a private, Jesuit high shcool in Manhattan, the kind you have to apply to (whereas I just went to a regular public school in Pennsylvania.)
He went to a decent, 4 year Jesuit university and graduated.
I don't know what he did between the ages of 22 and 25, but he started at his present company in an entry-level position at the age of 25 (4 years ago.) He was basically like an operator, he worked in the info center of a corporate Manhattan office. He was promoted last year, but still does not hold a very prestigious title. He is an assistant to one of the Directors, and holds some other responsibilities.
He, at one time, had been interested in Communications and a career on the radio, but when he told me that, I don't know if that was something he actively pursued and did not succeed securing a position, or if that was more like a childhood interest.
Both of his parents are professionals. He comes from a strong, good family who value education and career. Why does he seem like he's just floating through life?
He just moved out of his parent's house last month. This was a goal of his. I told him it might make more sense, as they clearly don't mind this arrangement, for him to just live there another 2 years, save thousands a year in rent, and hope to buy a house. Bc, everyone knows, renting is just flushing money down the toilet, you have nothing to show for it...so if you can at all help it, save that $$ for ownership of a house or condo! He said to me, "yeah but I don't know if I'd be able to afford a house even at that point, so...."
ummmmmmmmmmm so..what? so he's just going to throw $600/month away needlessly, and resign himself to NEVER owning a home unless maybe he marries a woman who can afford one? He's not even like one of those GQ model looking guys who gets a lot of chicks and should bank on finding one who will carry him... he has no self esteem like that so please don't suggest that's it. What is he THINKING?? He's not sure if he ever wants to have kids...so maybe he's just a floater?
Important to mention: He's always on time for work everyday, never late, doesn't take too much time off...so in that way, he's a good employee, but he doesn't really go the extra mile as far as his duties are concerned.
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