I like this guy. He likes me. He is coming to see me in two weeks, we live on opposite coasts. THE PROBLEM: I've abstained for sex for over 1 1/2 years. There is huge physical attraction between us. I want to continue abstaining from sex, even when he comes. I know it's not going to be easy for either of us.. I'm afraid I will slip and we'll end up having sex. We will be staying two days/nights together. I brought up the idea to him that what if he has sex with someone before he comes to see me.. He got disappointed/mad that I said that and he got off the phone. But really, I'm okay with him having sex before he comes to see me if that will relieve the tension when he comes to visit. What do you think about this? And would you ever give someone your interested in permission to have sex with someone else if it will solve a problem?