I was date raped 18 months ago by a ex and i am in counseling for it. I have a new boyfriend I have been dating for 3 months. He knows about the rape and wants to get intimate. But I am not sure if I am ready. I still get scared at certain times when we are together. He says that he will wait for as long as i need but I am not sure when I will be ready. Should I just let him go. is this fair to him or tell him that he needs to wait longer?