Okay...I know a lot of you are going to come down on me and tell me that "looks aren't important" and I'm "shallow" and blah blah blah. I'm not on here because I want to leave my husband because he's unattractive. I love him very much and am very committed to him. So, if you're planning on telling me how horrible I am, you can stop reading here and move on to another question. My concerns are legitimate.My husband is in the Army and being in shape is a requirement for his job. He's also been talking about putting a packet in for Selection, so his physical abilities come into play even more. He used to be in pristine shape...I mean the six pack abs and the arms that would stretch the sleeves of his t-shirts. He had always been that way since the day we met (before the Army). I also keep myself in good shape, although not as great as that (I've had kids)...I like to look good for my husband. Since my husband came back from Iraq 10 months ago, he's completely let himself go. He stopped working out all together, he's been eating fast food more and more, and he spends his days lying around the house. While in Iraq he was very strict with his work outs, but now he keeps saying he'll get around to doing it again, but never does. His physical appearance and just lazy attitude has made me less attracted to him and our sex life (and marriage) have suffered.So, how can I let him know all of this without insulting him and making him feel fat? (I tried once and he spent the rest of the night saying "my wife thinks I'm fat.") I understand it could be the transition from Iraq to home causing some problems. I just want my husband back. He doesn't have to be in "perfect shape"...I don't care, just happy. Any suggestions?Heather, he wasn't gone for 10 months...he's been home for 10 months. He was actually deployed for 15 months.
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