First off, I love my boyfriend very much so dumping him is absolutely NOT an option. When we first started dating we used to have sex pretty often (2-4 times/week) and that lasted about the first 6 months of our relationship. However the last couple of months have been extremely frustrating for me, we are down to sex once every week or two and I usually have to make a comment about how we haven't had sex in a forever or that we don't have sex anymore for it to even happen. I try giving hints and iniciating it but he is just not responsive. No erection, no moderate interest, nada. A few times he has gotten hard and he goes away so it deflates, leaving me frustrated, confused, and rejected. He just doesn't ever seem even mildly interested in it anymore. Ideally, I'd love to do it at least twice a week. Not unreasonable right? I'm 21 and He's 26 but I thought men didnt slow down till their 30's? He had no virtually no sex with his ex-girlfriend before me? They had an open relationship but he has made it very clear to me he absolutely does not want that with me. He isnt into porn or any of that. SO I just don't know how to approach it and I'm getting desperate, when I have to beg him for sex it's usually mediocre, the few times he's in the mood he goes for himself and while I say It's fine, it sucks.
I don't know maybe it's because I've gained weight? I work as maid in a really stiff hotel 30-40hours/week so I'm usually exhausted when I get home, not to mention a full time college student so working out hasn't been on the top of my priorities list recently...I was really fit when we first got together because I played lacrosse but this semester I just don't have time for it and I'm exhausted from work. I've gained maybe 20lbs over the last 7 months?
Otherwise he hasnt been different or ill towards me. We spend plenty of time together, he is still extremely sweet and caring towards me. We enjoy going for dates, but it's all about cuddling. Always. I love a good cuddle as mch as the next girl, but I really wish he was a little more sexual with me.