Long distance relationships are tricky, and this is about as long distance as you get pInsist on talking to each other on a web cam, you have to see him and know it's him... i could send you all the pics you want to convince you I'm a little girl, but that doesn't make me one. If he won't, that should send up all sorts of red flags. If he will... go meet him in China, he sounds great ) Do make sure your friends and family know where you're going to be each day and it would be a really good idea to call a friend each night of your trip.. you can't be too careful. expect the best but plan for the worst and you should be OK )then when you know he's all good you can be more confident about a long term, long distance relationship )best of luck to youtweedle d