I forgot what the farmer told me it was called, but it looks like this: http://www.smilepolitely.com/images/uploads/food/2011/may/18/drp2139047x.jpg

So far I've only tried stir-frying it--It seems as though no matter how long I let it go, it's still very hard. I used the entire plant, am I only supposed to use the flowers or leaves?