To have sex or not to have sex?

[Sunny]

Met a guy, online, drove 4 hrs to meet him. Mutual attraction. Fooled around in bed-did not have sex though. Before I left he gave me an ultimatum. He told me not to come back unless I was ready to have sex. As it is to frusterating to be around me otherwise. He also said he does not want to play games, and that, he does not want to waste his time. Myself: early twenties, and not had sex. There is a definite attraction and he is an awesome kisser.

What should I do?

[Silly Goose]

I 100% agree with Chad B's answer on this one.

[Doc Phil]

save that cherry for your husband

[George]

He just wants to have sex with you and that's it, he's a player.

[Egypt]

Find your dignity, stay off line, keep your butt in school.




*you gotta digg this*

[ABCD]

why would you give it up to someone who doesn't respect your desire to wait? he doesn't respect you, he might like you, but that's not caring or respectful, both of which are minimum requirements for me to give a man the time of day.

don't lower yourself to that. you'll regret it for the rest of your life. NO ONE regrets not having sex with someone. the opposite is, unfortunately common.

[Shannon]

We're assuming he was mean about it, but let's assume he's not.
He's just flat out told you he just wants to screw around and not to tease him.

It is a bit odd that you were willing to drive over there and roll around with him but not have sex. Does he not know you are a virgin?

Did you think it was a date not a hook-up?

[Chad B]

Don't do it, it is just a booty call to him. Any guy that respects a girl NEVER says "sex or don't come back"

If you have sex with him, he WILL NEVER call you again. Trust me on this.

[Mike]

he is a player!