Dangers of giving out my cell phone number online?

**J$moneeey(:** · 01-09-2010, 08:23 AM

Im 14 yrs old and i met this guy on the internet and we've been talking for more then a year and i wanna give him my phone number cause i hate getting online just to talk to him. The only reason im hesitant about this is because of all this stuff happening on the internet. I mean business people give out there number and nothing happens to them right??

Should i give him my number we've been talking about it cause im going on vacation for a month during summer and we wont be able to talk.. so id like your opinion thanks

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my dads a businessman and gives out his personal number so HA!

hahaha just kidding lol (:

**Faith4jesus** · 01-09-2010, 08:24 AM

Look back in 1992 or so when the internet was new I was a teen. I did stuff like giving out my phone number and address.

One day I met a guy online. I was about 16. I gave out all my info and one day he showed up my house wanting to watch porn and do a lot of other stuff.

I was so lucky he left.

Later I wasn't so lucky. I met a guy who said he was a teen. He was in his mid. 20's. This guy was suppose take me to the movies and he took me far out of the city and date raped me. This went on for months!

I never told anyone till I was in my 20's. This guy often took me to what he said was his "grandfathers" cabin deep in the woods somewhere in GA. I remember one day thinking of running to get away but I would have gotten lost.

This guy would show up at my home during the day when my parents were at work (I dropped out school & stayed home all day at 17).

I was LUCKY I wasn't hurt worse. But still at 33 I deal with what this guy did to me & worse could have done.

Being online isn't a game. It is like being in the real world talking to strangers who are REAL PEOPLE.

It is so easy to lie and be someone else.

One guy I met online told me he was my age. Later he called my home and knew all about my parents, sister & even my dogs name! I never gave out any of that info. Scared me to death.

You father is a buisness man and an adult. You are a child and the real world isn't a game.

Bad things happen. So be careful.

Learn from my dumb mistakes You do not know how awful it is to be raped OVER & OVER again for months on end. To fear that this guy is out there free today due to it being too late to do anything. TO this day if I see anyone who looks like this guy I want to throw up.

I once looked up this jerks name onlne and he had sick poems about raping me (i'm sure it was me it could have been someone else) & he even had a note that made my skin crawl that siad "Yes, (my name) I am THE (his name)." UG!!!.

**Chimney** · 01-09-2010, 08:24 AM

Well for one, itâ€™s the internet! That should be enough to tell you not to do it. If he isnâ€™t 14, there is a possibility that whoever it is, knows how to track where you live via your mobile number or if he is who he says he is, he could know someone else who knows how to track where you live. Just because he seems like a nice 14yr old, doesnâ€™t mean he doesnâ€™t have a creepy dad standing over his shoulder ready to pounce on the numbers people give out to him.

Donâ€™t give it to him. He could just be the nice 14yr old, or he could be some 40yr old or the nice 14yr who is in the business of scamming with his dad.

Business people hardly ever do it and when they do, they either know the person theyâ€™re sending it to or someone whom they work with knows who they are sending it to. They donâ€™t just send their numbers off wily nilly here there and everywhere. They put some thought and consideration in to who itâ€™s going to. My Dad has to often send his number off over the internet for business reasons, he may not know the guy/business his sending it to, but he has received information off a higher power, which deems it fine to do so.
Amateur business people just send it off thinking that itâ€™s a grand idea but for someone like my Dad who works in the job he does, with the corporation he does, itâ€™s crucial his information doesnâ€™t get sent here there and everywhere. Not to add like someone has said, if they need to send off a number over the internet, the number theyâ€™re sending / phone theyâ€™re using canâ€™t be tracked to an exact location. If they did track it, and went to look for my dad, theyâ€™d be sent to the middle of the ocean or desert hundreds and thousands of miles away from my Dad. They take big precautions when using the internet to distribute their numbers

01-09-2010, 08:24 AM

Just by a phone number, he'll be able to find your exact location... fast. He'll know your area and name, which will allow him to find your house. I'm sorry to say but no matter how many pictures he shows you or how many years you've been talking, you just can't trust the person. A person with a mental illness can seem fine on the internet, but talk or meet them in real life, and you could get into a lot of trouble. The person above me posted some great information.

Business people are adults, and usually have business numbers, to their business phone. They know who they can give their number to. They don't go around giving their number to everyone on the internet. The internet is a lot different as you can hide your identity.

If you really want to talk to him, then get internet on your phone while you're on vacation. It's a lot safer and though typing is harder than talking, it's a lot safer. On your desktop you can speak to him through a microphone if that's what you wish. Of course it's up to you, but be careful.

01-09-2010, 08:26 AM

Simple obsessional stalkers, delusional stalkers and vengeful stalkers. There is of course often overlap of these basic definitions.

A simple obsessional stalker is anything but simple. They are typically the person who refuses to believe that a relationship is over, although they have been told repeatedly that it is.

Do not be misled by this type thinking they are harmlessly in love. Many of them were emotionally abusive and controlling during the relationship and many even have a criminal record unrelated to stalking.

This is the most common type of stalker.

The next type is the delusional stalker, they frequently have never had any contact with their victim beyond the boundaries of their own mind. They may suffer from mental illness like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder or erotomania. What they have in common is a false belief that keeps them tied to their victims. In erotomania they believe that the victim loves them, even though they have never met. A good example of this is the man that stalked and killed Rebecca Schaeffer.

Another type of delusional stalker may believe that he and the victim are destined to be together and even though they may not have met if he only just shows how much he loves her then she will love him and they will be together as it is meant to be. An example of this type of stalker is John Hinckley Jr. that shot president Reagan in order to show Jody Foster how much he loved her.

A delusional stalker is usually a loner, unmarried, socially immature and does not possess the interpersonal skills to maintain friendships and relationships. They have had few if any sexual encounters. They most often choose victims that are unobtainable being a celebrity or a married woman, their doctor, teacher, nurse or therapist. Those helping professions are at risk for attracting a delusional stalker.

Delusional stalkers are very difficult to get rid of and many go on for many years fixated on one person.

The last type of stalker is the vengeful stalker. They get angry at their victim due to some slight either real or imagined. We have all heard of disgruntled employees, these are vengeful stalkers and can be just as dangerous as the delusional. They stalk to get even and believe that "they" have been victimized. Ex-spouses can turn into this type of stalker and violence is all to common a result.

What motivates these stalkers?

Sexual Harassment
Love-Obsession, Hate, Revenge, Vendettas
Ego & Power Trips

Please don't give it too him.

**toomanypetzz** · 01-09-2010, 08:26 AM

No! No, no, no!
So many people will see that and you'll have creeps calling you AND who knows about this guy? He might some 40 year old weirdo looking for girls your age.
Don't do it. For the best safety of you and your family.

**Serene E** · 01-09-2010, 08:31 AM

Well, you say you know this guy. Go ahead and give it to him. No one else can see what you put on the internet. It's when you put it out PUBLIC, that it's a problem.