with him for months. He said that he hates being selfish and never wanted to admit to it. We are currently going through some relationship troubles at the moment. The thing that finally got him to admit it was that when I said "something hurts you or affects you directly its worth tearing about, but when I am hurting you just sit there with no emotion" The fact that he acknowledged his selfishness is a major thing but how do I help him?? He's not a complete jerk, he's considerate at times but when it comes to certain things he's just plain selfish....advice please