...manipulation? And what makes them this way? Is there a general answer as to why people are like this? Could it be a strong need and fear of not being in control?

I asked alot of questions here, sorry. Thanks for the responses.
Just a short description I found on a website: "The tactics of deceit, manipulation and control are a steady diet for covert-aggressive personality. It's the way they prefer to deal with others and to get the things they want in life."