my girl friend wont cook or clean i go to work all day and come home and cook and...

[James]

...clean all she does is lay up? all she does is stay home and watch tv

[Bri]

She is either very lazy or very depressed. Talk to her to find out which. if she is just lazy you may need either just accept it or set some ultimatums.
if she is depressed find out what is at the root of it and find ways of stimulating her and your relationship. Suggest she sees her doctor for some help/

[honestguy602]

Trust me, she doesn't just "lay up" all day. Sorry, man. I'll tell her to start pulling some weight around the house for you, when I go over there today. It's the least I could do.